There’s come many times when being a mom is so overwhelming, I don’t know how I’m going to make it through the day/night. Times where sleep is minimal or nonexistent, crying is nonstop, and times I just don’t know what the heck I’m doing.
As a mom, you question everything. Is he getting the nutrients he needs? Is he on track to learning everything he needs to? Is he interacting with kids enough? Am I spoiling him too much? Am I not doing enough? The list goes on and on. So many people judge you for the decisions you make or don’t make. Family, strangers, fellow mom who, you would think, know what it’s like being judged by others, doing just that, judging you for not doing what they’re doing.
I joined a mom group recently to interact with other moms and to get advice on certain topics. But I can’t do that. Moms are the harshest critics on how others raise their children. And why? Why do others care what my child had for dinner? How does their child’s set bedtime decide what my child’s should be? Why do other moms find it necessary to put other moms down as if they know everything? In reality, none of us really know what we’re doing. We may think we do, but do we really? Nobody taught of any of this. We just do what we think is best for our child. Each child is different so can we really parent the exact same way? No. The biggest most important factor is we are doing what is best for our child and can you put a parent down for caring? You shouldn’t.
Now don’t get me wrong, I know there are mothers and parents that really don’t care. I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about the ones that are trying their absolute hardest and may not even get appreciated for the things they do for their family. Those who do all that and still get judged by others. Instead of bringing each other down, because we all know we bring ourselves down at the end of the day, why don’t we support each other? Is it really that hard?